ANGER | غصہ Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy,
human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can
lead to rage,
quarrels, hatred, violence, a host of other evils, problems at work, problems in our personal
relationships and problems in the overall quality of our life. Allah Ta’ala says: “And those who swallow anger and
those who forgive people, Allah loves the righteous.” Rasulullah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: “Do
not become wrathful.” “A powerful man is not one who
defeats (another) in physical combat. Verily, a powerful man is he who controls his nafs
at the time of anger.”
In
another narration it appears that a strong man is he who controls anger. It is
essential to keep
anger under control. One should never act spontaneously in accordance with the dictates
of anger. On the contrary, anger should be made subservient to the instruction
of the Shariah.
It is natural to be aroused in the state of anger. Such natural propensity is
not rebukeable.
But, Allah Ta’ala has endowed
man with volition (Ikhtiyaar |
will-power). Anger has
therefore to be controlled since it is within the scope of man’s volition to do so. Failure to exercise
this volitional power is contrary to humanity (Insaaniyat).
There
are many reasons for the inclusion of anger in the natural attributes of man.
Along with the
quality of anger Allah Ta’ala
has endowed man with the ability to control such anger to ensure
that the latter is not misappropriated and unjustly employed.
Anger
in itself comes into motion involuntarily. It is automatically activated. But,
acting in accordance
with its demand is voluntary, hence refraining from it is likewise voluntary.
The remedy
for a volitional act (the way of curbing it) is nothing other than the exercise
of one’s volitional
power to bring about restraint and control. This is within one’s ability even if one experiences
a degree of difficulty in the exercise of such volition. Repeated exercise of
the volition
of restraint weakens the demand of anger. In consequence, refraining from anger becomes
a relatively simple task.
The
following narration appears in the Hadith Shareef: “The Qadhi should not decide between two
parties while in anger.” The
judge or the ruler is not permitted to issue a verdict while in anger, but
should postpone the
trial or case for a later dare. The term, Qaadhi in the context of this Hadith
applies to every
person having authority over people. The instructor, teacher and head of a
family all fall
within the purview of this Hadith. They should not be hasty in meting our
punishment to their
subordinates while in the state of anger.
Those in authority should remember that .Allah Ta’ala is the
defender of the rights of those who have no defender. Allah Ta’ala will demand from the
aggressor the rights of the oppressed. According to the Hadith Shareef, Allah Ta’ala and Rasulullah
(صلى الله عليه وسلم) will claim from the tyrannical ruler the rights which he seized even from his
non-Muslim subjects. It is therefore imperative to exercise caution when punishing. CURES/ILAJ
One should read the following daily so many times
that one remembers it at the time of Ghazab(anger). 1.To read the whole “A’uzubillah”. 2.To make Wudhu(ablution). 3.To sit down if one is standing and to lay down if one is staying. 4.To go away from the person one is angry with or to remove him. 5.To sit in the company of someone righteous. 6.To engage oneself in remembrance of Allah
Ta’ala, also in reciting Durood Sharif(invocation
of blessing upon our Rasulullah (صلى الله عليه وسلم)). 7.To try ones utmost not to talk. To refrain from any
dealings, that could anger one. 8.To contemplate on that anger destroys Iman(belief) . 9.To contemplate on the following: One is an offender of Allah Ta’ala as well and if ones sins cause similar anger it would be very difficult
to gain salvation(Nijat). Also by pardoning the errors of others it is hoped
that one’s own will be ultimatively forgiven. So, it is better
to pardon the person one’s angry with. 10.When one acts against the prescribed guidelines, then to give
from a span of 0.50 till 10 Rupee in charity and to offer
4 Nafl Raka’ats(voluntary cycles) of prayer.
(Jest of Saying of حضرت مسیح الله خان رحمتہ اللہ علیہ and مولانا ابرارالحق رحمتہ اللہ علیہ)
